Tuesday, February 24, 2009
A different dimension of thinking and musing
When I was young, I thought that dreams were all impossible but reasonably reachable as long as one tried hard enough to reach it. I think I overestimated my ability. Simply because it means that I am doing things MY way, using MY strength without consideration for others or any notion of someone called God helping me.
Many people can tell us many things. But we got to use our 11th sense, if not called, our extrasensory perception of sensing, as some psychology researchers attest to its validity in humans. Practically speaking, and speaking in a less cheeem way without sounding too "atas", we got to use our "cow sense" and "God sense" to discern.
An example of it is when I had faced many people who inevitably meant things in a really good way, that I am too young to think about marriage. Besides, marriage is presumably a far cry for most 21 year olds going on to 22 this year according to societal norms! Mind you, we exclude the tribal norms and 3rd world countries' cultural norms. Instead, we talk about the 1st world and the Singaporean "kia-su, kia-si, kia-lang" way of thinking. (E.g scared to lose, scared to die, scare other people)
Then again, it took me a reasonable amount of time, to think and discern, with the encouragement of religious, lay people and thank God my parents too, to decide to take a step towards understanding and knowing what marriage is all about.
Besides, aren't those who commit to a serious relationship eventually having an ultimate goal of marriage in mind? Indeed, wedding is a just a day, and a marriage is a lifetime. It is no joke staying and living with someone else entirely and biologically different from oneself (unless of course, we include happy people). It can bring the greatest joy where "eros" meets "agape" with the grace of God, yet it can certainly be the bane of our very existence as long-married couples can second that, even our white haired parents! (E.g. You step on my toe, I step on yours. You step on more of my toes, I will step on ALL your toes!)
(Eros = love meaning sexual attraction between a man and a woman, Agape = love meaning self-sacrifical love as Christ laid down His life for the Church.)
I applaud those who have been engaged or yet to engage or be betrothed to even take the step forward to understand more about each other through the journey of a relationship and really mean what they say when they publicly announce their marriage vows to each other in their milestone wedding.
I don't mean to sound like a walking advertisement ah, but F.Y.I, I would strongly encourage everyone who is currently in a relationship and thinking about marriage to go for Engagement Encounter AND Marriage Preparation Course. I'm not saying that it is the ticket to a perfect marriage, but I'm saying that it will most probably help to lower the already-devastating divorce statistics.
http://www.singstat.gov.sg/pubn/popn/smd2007.pdf
-Yours truly ;
